We are usually told about things that will benefit us
but Gampopa, a Tibetan Buddhist teacher from the Kagyu school of Buddhism,
taught ten things that are of no benefit to us.
No matter how much respect and honour are payed to your illusory body, it is certain that it is impermanent and will perish. Hence, such things are of no benefit.
It doesn’t matter if people show you lots of respect or shower you with honours, your body is impermanent and at the time of death that respect and honour will count for nothing. So, don’t let your ego and pride lead you down a wrong path. The kind and respectful things people say to you are just their perspective, so don’t believe the hype, because it is of no benefit to you.
No matter how much greed and stinginess we feel towards wealth and possessions, we will leave naked and empty-handed once we cross the threshold of death. Thus, such things are of no benefit.
A life spent accumulating
vast amounts of wealth is going to be of no benefit at the time of death. You
may have lots of money in the bank or in offshore accounts, but when you die
that money will instantly belong to someone else. Surrounding yourself with
lots of possessions you don’t really need is only going to clutter your life
and mind. Instead, live a simple, contented life. So, don’t waste this life
hording money or possessions, because neither are going to be of benefit to you
when you die.
No matter how much effort we put into building nice homes and mansions, we cross the threshold of death alone with our corpse being taken out the door. Hence, such things are of no benefit.
Spending all of your
time, money and effort on building a big house is not going to benefit you when
you die. You will not be able to take it with you. So, build a simple house
that suits your needs and not your ego. You may like showing your beautiful,
big home to others, but once you die the home is going to belong to someone
else. So, there is no benefit of wasting your time and money on a luxury home.
Je Gampopa
No matter how many gifts you lovingly bestow upon your children and grand-children, there’s not even an instant of benefit at the time of death. Thus, such things are of no benefit.
It is always nice to give gifts to our children and grand-children but
spoiling them with lavish gifts is of no benefit to them or you. You are not
helping them by being over generous. You are just feeding their egos. Nobody is
going to benefit from such acts at the time of death.
Since all of your children and grandchildren are impermanent, even if they keep the things given by you, it is certain they will be left behind. Thus, such things are of no benefit.
Even if you do spoil your children and grand-children, they will not be
able to find any use for your gifts once they have died. This means your gifts
are of no benefit.
No matter how much love and care you have for friends and relatives, when you die you depart without anyone to accompany you. Hence, such things are of no benefit.
Getting attached to family and friends is not going to help you on your
deathbed. In fact, they will disturb your mind be crying and telling you not to
go, which is going to make your departure from this world extremely painful.
When we go, we go alone, so don’t allow yourself to get attached to family and
friends, because it is going to bring you more suffering at the time of death.
No matter how much one strives in working for the nobility and their subjects for the aims of this life, one will cross the threshold of death having been completely cut off from their land. Hence, such things are of no benefit.
You may spend your life accumulating land and property. What benefit
will they be once you die? They will become someone else’s land and property.
This means you have wasted your time and money on things that have no lasting benefit.
Novice monks learning the dharma
Even though one may have faithfully entered the gateway to dharma (Buddha’s teachings), if one does not practice according to the dharma, the dharma will become a cause for one to take rebirth in the lower realms. Thus, it would be without any benefit.
Instead of wasting this
precious life on wealth, family, friends, property, etc., we should study the
Buddha’s teachings. But if we only study them and don’t integrate them into our
lives, what would be the benefit? It would mean you will have a lot of
knowledge about Buddhism but would not have gained any wisdom.
No matter how much dharma you know, having trained your mind in study and contemplation, without putting it into practice there is no way to take such things with you at the time of death. Hence, it would be without any benefit.
If you have had many teachings on Buddhism and you have trained your
mind to study and meditate, but you don’t actually use the practice in your
daily life, why bother? Buddhism is not a belief system or a religion, it is a
way of life. So, we need to study, meditate and then take what we have learned
and use it to help ourselves and others. There really isn’t any benefit in
being able to recite Buddha’s teaching from memory if you are not going to put
them into practice. The world doesn’t need intellectual Buddhists, it needs practicing
Buddhists.
No matter how long you stay in the presence of a spiritual master, if you yourself do not believe what they are teaching, you won’t receive any of their qualities. Thus, it would be without any benefit.
We cannot just surrender to a teacher and think, ‘Job done.’ The teacher is there to guide, mentor and support you. They are not there is magically pass on blessings or do the work for you. It is your path and only you can walk it. Of course, at first, we have to have faith in the teacher and teachings, but once we have experienced for ourselves what the Buddha taught, we no long need faith. Remember, the teacher is there for us to learn from and not lean on. So, find a teacher, study Buddha’s teachings, meditate and implement them into your life, that is the way to benefit from the Buddha dharma.
The point
Gampopa is making here is that we are all heading towards death and so we
should not waste our time on unimportant things. By that I mean, things that
are not going to help us at the time of death. Studying and implementing the
Buddha dharma is one thing that can help us at that point. This is because it
trains our mind to be peaceful, stable, open and compassionate. So, when we are
on our deathbed our mind will be calm and able to let go without any regrets. I
can’t think of anything worse than being scared to take your last breath
because you didn’t want to leave behind your big house, luxury car and
impressive bank account.
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I think it’s true to say that we become distracted very easily and find it hard to stay focused for any length of time. The mind lurches from one thing to another at a rapid speed, and then we wonder why our mind is not at peace. How can it be, it’s exhausted! So, learning how to stay focused on a single object, thought, emotion, feeling, body sensation or experience is going to cut down on distractions and help strengthen our minds.
One of the best
ways to achieve single-pointed awareness is through meditation. To achieve the
most from meditation you also need to like, or have a positive attitude, about
the practice. It’s a long-term process. It isn’t enough to do a 10-day
meditation course and think job done. That is just the starting point. If we
want to live peaceful, purposeful and fruitful lives we need to develop a mind
of resilience and mettle. Without fortitude of mind we will never achieve
peace.
To have
strength of mind, four mental qualities need to be developed. These are purpose,
persistence, sensitivity and analysis.
What’s your purpose?
When I first
started meditating many thoughts would pop into my head and start to hamper my
meditation practice. I would suddenly start busying myself with non-essential
work just to delay meditating. It was easy to lose interest because I wasn’t
seeing any immediate results. I even started to lack confidence because I
thought I wasn’t doing it right. This was all happening because I hadn’t set
clear goals or purpose for my practice. I just sat down and started meditating
because I heard it was good for me.
So, the
starting point to strengthening your mind is to understand why you are doing
the practice, what you would like to achieve and how you will know when you
have achieved it. All of these will give you a sense of purpose.
If you wish to
succeed in meditation it is important to like the process. We need to allow it
to capture our imagination and then it will become easier to get absorbed in
it. We cannot just go through the motions and hope it magically leads us to
where we want to be. We must have a purpose, an objective.
When we go to
the gym our objective is to become fitter. When we go on a diet the purpose is
to lose weight. When we learn a musical instrument, we do so because we wish to
play it proficiently. My point here is that whenever we start something we
should always have an anticipated outcome that guides our planned actions.
Meditation is a
practice and as with all other practices, we need to be aware of how much
attention we are paying to it, how closely we observe what we are doing, how
effective we are being and how much our personal wellbeing is improving. By
looking at these points your practice is going to improve.
Once you have
made all these points clear in your mind, you will have your purpose and will
be ready to move onto the next point.
Can you persist?
Even though we
may have a clear purpose to practice, without persistence, success will evade
you. To simply have a purpose is not enough, we need to take action. Otherwise,
our purpose becomes ineffective and intellectual.
Single-pointed
awareness can only be gained through a force of effort and persistence. When
these are applied diligently and in a balanced way, only then can our awareness
become single-pointed. When I say balance, I mean not too forceful and not too
lax. Consider how a guitar string needs to be tuned for it to give a perfect
note. If it is too loose or too tight you will not strike the right sound. Our
persistence in the same way needs to be tuned.
We have to be
willing to put in effort, even though the results may not be noticed
immediately. It is no good just to do a meditation practice when we feel like
it. I understand that it is not easy to sit when we are tired, or to sit
through pain or even sit for extra minutes, but if we don’t, we are not going
to progress on the path.
It is
inevitable that there are going to be times when you can’t be bothered to do
the practice, or you are too busy or too tired. These are the times we really
need to stick with it and push through any obstacles we may have created in our
mind. This is a key point to remember, these obstacles are all created by your
mind. You are the one stopping yourself from meditating.
Are you sensitive?
The next
strength is sensitivity. We need to be sensitive about what we are trying to
gain from the meditation, what effort we are putting in and what progress we
are making.
We also need to
be sensitive to what state our mind is in when we come to meditation. Sometimes
our mind is overactive and at other times underactive. When this happens, you
need to strengthen the mind before you focus on your object of meditation. If
you are overactive, you can slow your breathing down. You can also ensure you
are breathing from your abdominal region and not your chest. When you are
underactive, you can speed your breath up a little. You could even do some
light stretching exercises to wake yourself up, such as yoga, mindful movement
or Tai Chi.
Try to be fully
aware and engaged with what you are doing and what results you are getting.
Understand that you are not looking for future achievements or looking back
over past experiences, you are being sensitive to what is happening right now,
right in this moment.
When we are
breathing, we need to be sensitive to each breath. When we are sitting, we need
to be sensitive to how it feels to sit. When we look at our minds as though we
are looking in a mirror, we need to be sensitive to our mental state. We have
to be watchful of every aspect of the meditation.
Going through
the motions is just not going to cut it. You have to make the practice your
practice, and we do that by having a purpose, putting in effort and being
sensitive to what is happening during the meditation.
So, how
sensitive are you to your practice? Look at these following points. Are you
sensitive to the effort you are putting in? Sensitive to your state of mind
before, during and after meditation? Sensitive to the quality of your breath or
any other object of meditation? Sensitive to what hindrances are stopping you
from meditating? Give these questions some thought.
Do you analyse?
Analysing is
another key to strengthen the mind. We need to clearly examine our tendency to
fall into bad habits and wrong practices. It also involves learning to work
with an imperfect mind and balancing our mental faculties.
We need to
analyse our meditation practice and not just sit there and hope for the best.
If the mind is in no mood to focus on your object of meditation, don’t give up,
investigate other topics your mind may wish to focus on. Try something
different, like focusing on a candle flame, chanting or focus on body
sensations. Explore new possibilities.
If your new approach works, continue with it. If you notice it is not really
working, be willing to stop doing it and try a fresh approach.
I learned this
the hard way. I was given a practice and I ploughed on for over a year, even
though it simply wasn’t working. I foolishly believed that my teacher knew
better. We need to understand that we are all different and there isn’t one
practice that suits everyone. We must analyse our practices until we find one
that works for us. Now, I am not encouraging you to flit from one practice to
another. Once you find a practice that works, stick with it, but until you find
one that works it is fine to experiment with different meditation styles.
Remember, we are not looking for the most popular practice or a practice that
proclaims it will lead you to enlightenment. We are looking for a practice that
works for us. A practice that will calm our minds and make our lives less
crazy.
So, this is how we can strengthen our minds through various meditation practices. I hope you have understood that more than anything else, it’s what you bring to the meditation that determines the results you’ll get. This places the responsibility and the power with you.
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A good way
to train ourselves in self-restraint is to have a day of observance. This is
when you make a promise to yourself to observe the eight precepts. (more…)
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